The first of the Analects of Confucius is: “The beginning of wisdom is to call all things by their proper name.” We, as a culture and as a society, have strayed dramatically from this advice and hardly ever use words, which describe the truth of our intent. Years ago the United States had a Cabinet…Details
Story has it that a group of reporters accompanied President Charles De Gaulle around the Élysée Palace in the 1960s. De Gaulle had a reputation for bombast and for having a big ego. When the entourage arrived on the balcony, a reporter reputedly said: “What a beautiful day.” To which De Gaulle replied: “Thank you.”…Details
Child of mine, I will never do for you that which I know you can do for yourself. I will never rob you of an opportunity to show yourself your ability and talent. I will see you at all times as the capable, effective, powerful creator that you’ve come forth to be. And I will…Details
The idea that your success matters to me may sound a bit odd at first; it certainly seemed odd to me when the thought first arose. Why should it matter at all to someone if someone else (a stranger) is doing well, is happy, and thriving? I think because we aren’t truly strangers. Our society,…Details
We talk to ourselves all the time… but stop for a second and consider what it is we are saying, or asking. Much of what we say can be punishing or critical; “Why am I so bad at X?” These kinds of questions contribute to disease and bodily breakdown. When we speak to ourselves, though,…Details
Americans have an obsession with winning. Winning can be fun; but there is a dirty little secret… you’ve already won! You’re alive!
The Chinese have a saying: “There are no happy endings to unhappy journeys.”
If the effort to win isn’t fun… stop it.
The purpose of life isn’t to win… it’s to enjoy.
Interruptions happen all the time. They can be annoying and irritating. The last thing you probably want to do is to keep track of them in a journal. That’s exactly why you should. Keeping track of interruptions (by day and time, with details of who and where) will reveal to you a pattern. The pattern may consist…Details
When you cope you are addressing someone else’s “why”. An employee did something incorrectly because he/she pursued a “why” either in error or by design. Something went wrong. Coping is the process of understanding their why and fixing the matter. Managing is training others to carry out your (or your firm’s) why. My wife refers to…Details
What is the quality which causes one person to become an artist, a bricklayer or a master mechanic? Is it a quality which is unique to each trade or profession? Is one born with a tendency toward being an artist, a bricklayer, or a mechanic? I don’t think so. What makes someone good (or great)…Details
A little girl comes home from grade school and asks her mother: “Where did I come from?” The mother is shocked and embarrassed to have that conversation with her young daughter but proceeds into the whole “birds & bees” discussion. When she’s finished, she asks her daughter: “Do you understand better now where you came from?” The little girl…Details